Today while driving in the car with
Fran, we began thinking about all the places we've lived over the
last 38 years and all the people we've known and all the friendships
we've made. It was this bit of nostalgic waxing that served as the
inspiration for this month's rant on "Fair Weather Friends.
Why is it, where ever you live, you
generally develop a close circle of friends. You know the
type, the one's that you can call on in case of an emergency, the
one's with whom you routinely socialize... just because, and the one's who just
drop over to sip some wine in the afternoon after a ball busting day
And then all of a sudden,
circumstances manifest themselves and you find yourself taking a job in
another state or loosing your job and moving to a completely
different country. Going away parties ensue both at work and
in the neighborhood. Everybody sobs as they profess their deep and
profound friendship and how this pending separation will never tear
asunder the deep binds that form the basis of your friendship.
Well that's a real
crock of shit!
In only the rarest of circumstances
will people ever "really" stay in touch. Call it what you
want, but it seems that once you are "out of sight out" you become
"out of mind." It's as if you've disappeared, or
worse, never existed!
People fail to stay in touch. And just a head's up... being on the receiving
end of a forwarded email joke thread does not count as "staying in
touch". In fact, I find it more insulting than no contact at
all. However, if I received a forwarded email joke from
thought you might get a kick out of this one",
I would be thinking that this person (at least) had me in their
thoughts... a somewhat comforting feeling.
So think about it the next time you go
through your email program's Contact List and you run across a
person's name with which you were once fairly friendly. You
really have but two choices...
Drop that person a line and bring
them up to date as to what's going on in your life and ask them
to do the same. or...
Delete their name from your Contact List and act
like they never existed.
I didn't want this to be a bummer
piece but more of a "think" piece. I felt I just needed to get
this idea out of my head but
isn't that what a rant
is supposed to do?
Take care my friends...