Are You A Fair Weather Friend?


Today while driving in the car with Fran, we began thinking about all the places we've lived over the last 38 years and all the people we've known and all the friendships we've made.  It was this bit of nostalgic waxing that served as the inspiration for this month's rant on "Fair Weather Friends.

Why is it, where ever you live, you generally develop a close circle of friends.  You know the type, the one's that you can call on in case of an emergency, the one's with whom you routinely socialize... just because, and the one's who just drop over to sip some wine in the afternoon after a ball busting day at work.

And then all of a sudden, circumstances manifest themselves and you find yourself taking a job in another state or loosing your job and moving to a completely different country.  Going away parties ensue both at work and in the neighborhood.  Everybody sobs as they profess their deep and profound friendship and how this pending separation will never tear asunder the deep binds that form the basis of your friendship.

Well that's a real crock of shit!

In only the rarest of circumstances will people ever "really" stay in touch.  Call it what you want, but it seems that once you are "out of sight out" you become "out of mind."  It's as if you've disappeared, or worse, never existed! 

People fail to stay in touch.  And just a head's up... being on the receiving end of a forwarded email joke thread does not count as "staying in touch".  In fact, I find it more insulting than no contact at all.  However, if I received a forwarded email joke from someone saying... "Hey Andy, thought you might get a kick out of this one", I would be thinking that this person (at least) had me in their thoughts... a somewhat comforting feeling.


So think about it the next time you go through your email program's Contact List and you run across a person's name with which you were once fairly friendly.  You really have but two choices...

  1. Drop that person a line and bring them up to date as to what's going on in your life and ask them to do the same. or...

  2. Delete their name from your Contact List and act like they never existed.

I didn't want this to be a bummer piece but more of a "think" piece.  I felt I just needed to get this idea out of my head but isn't that what a rant is supposed to do?

Take care my friends...



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